Dear NY Spender,
I am looking to try new fashion trends. I was always one not to try a few just because I wonder what people will think of me.
This town I live in isn’t exactly about “fashion”. It’s a very small town, and you see plenty people in sweats and jeans. So I guess out of habit, I start dressing like that as well. If someone in my town would attempt to dress “fashionable”, they would get those “are-you-crazy” looks. I do not want to dress in sweats and jeans all the time! I want to dress like these people here:
Nothing makes me more confident than feeling “put together”.
There are a ton of real people out there with great fashion sense (you included!) I want to be open to these fashion trends.
However, I get overwhelmed and don’t know where to start. I tend to buy different pieces sporadically, but never wear them because, well, I don’t know how to wear them or what to pair them with!
What advice would you have for a person (like myself) trying to re-do her closet and get into all these latest fashion trends?
you don't specify your age (I am guessing it can be anywhere from 12 to 30 years old), but one thing is for sure: it's never too late to start dressing up the way it makes you comfortable and that makes you feel "put together". Just don't waste anymore time on it, start today!
Also, stop wasting money on things you don't wear, and stop caring about what people think about you.
If you want to be fashionable, especially in a town where nobody is fashionable, then you have to be ready to have all eyes on you. And you have to learn to enjoy that feeling.
If you start dressing up with style, wearing nicely put together outfits, showing off all your charm and "I-can't-help-it-I-am-so-fashionable" attitude, yes, maybe you'll initially get the "are you crazy" stares, but soon enough, inevitably, those stares are going to turn into secret admiration from all the other girls in town. I promise.
I come from a town similar but opposite of yours, a small Italian town where everybody dressed up all the time! Where people would iron their jeans. Where the only people wearing sweats and sneakers were the PE teachers. Where you would always wear a new outfit on Sundays! Everybody judging everybody.
So I understand what is like in towns like these.
But I would have loved a town like yours! You have it easy! Without much effort, you should be able to rise above all of them, and, who knows? Maybe start something?
Maybe you could be the girl that brings winds of fashion change! Maybe you'll become the girl that other girls will look up to for inspiration...
So where do you begin? Let me step-it-out for you:
1) You need inspiration and you need to be informed. Fashion education is vital. Get it from the internet, on websites like chictopia, and browse fashion magazines at the bookstore. Get a good idea of what you like and figure out your style.
2) Compare this new style and your closet. Make necessary adjustments. Clean up your closet of the things you know you don't want to wear, and that don't fit in with your new style.
3) Until you become more experienced buying separates, try buying entire outfits right off the mannequins. If you see a look you like in a clothing store, study the mannequin and see if you already have any of the pieces at home. Then buy what you are missing. Lots of clothing websites have "look ideas" and "shop the outfit" options that put the look together for you.
Martin + Osa - Bebe - Ann Taylor - Forever 21 - NY&Co
4) Keep reading NY Spender! ;)
Your style and your confidence won't show up overnight, these are things that need to be built and worked on everyday, but with time and patience, you will blossom into the most fashionable girl in town. I just know it.
Update: an email from Taryn describing her first fashion accomplishments. :)